Top tips for a good sex

Top tips for a good sex

Are you looking for the top tips in what makes sex good? Do you want to know what are the best positions to be able to do to make sex good? Are you wondering how many times a week you should have sex? Are you asking yourself how many minutes should you be able to maintain your erection while having intercourse? Are you focused on how hard your erection is and how big and strong your penis is? Are you focused on how many orgasms you have or how many orgasms your partner has, and wondering what is normal and what is good?

Many people are looking for top tips and validation that they are good at sex. They are searching the Internet, they are watching porn, they are creating all sorts of key performance matrix to try to determine if they are good at sex.

They want to know how many minutes should they last, how long should sex be, how many times a week should we have it, how many orgasms are normal. All of these tips and matrix to determine whether or not you are good at sex are irrelevant.

The top tip to know if you are good at sex is to ask your partner:

• Are they enjoying it?
• Do they feel safe and comfortable, and believe that you could handle them telling you what they like and what they don’t like?
• Ask them do you think that they would be able to tell you if they weren’t happy or if they wanted something different and you would be able to take it.

What makes a good lover is somebody who is willing to listen to and talk to their partner. A good lover is someone who is will to be open to their partner’s idea of pleasure and enjoyment and not making it about them.

Second tip: It’s not about you!

If you want to be good at sex and you want to be able to enjoy yourself while being open to enjoyment and pleasure of your partner – you need to be able to talk about sex and feelings from sex.

Too often, both men and women, are overly focused on the erections of the man, on their penises, on intercourse only and often starting it way too soon before the woman is ready for it. If you are somebody who is so preoccupied on intercourse sex and on your or his penis, you are ignoring the most important person in sex – your partner.

So, what makes a good lover and what makes you good at sex is being aware of your partner, responding to his or her needs and what they like. It’s learning to take what they like, their individual pleasure, their individual enjoyment and not getting defensive, feeling attacked or making it about you. It’s just what they like. Learning how to talk through that is a great skill. To be able to talk about feelings, to talk about what somebody likes, not just on the performance and not just on you.