Sex technics not helping

Sex technics not helping

Have you learned several new sexual techniques to improve your sex life, but your partner doesn’t want to participate? Have you been researching all these different ways to do sex in hopes of enticing your partner to have sex with you, but it hasn’t worked? Are you getting confused and frustrated that you are putting in all this effort to learn new sex techniques to improve your sex life, but your partner still won’t engage in sex with you? Are you confused when every time you ask your partner why they don’t want have sex, they can never give you a satisfying answer?

One of the often underlooked issues in any relationship, when it comes to having sex, is that sex isn’t just about the mechanical aspects or sexual techniques. In long-term relationships couples need to be able to have a healthy, emotionally connected relationship that forms the basis for sex. When sex starts breaking down, one of the common mistakes that people make is to think it as a doing problem. They want to make it about techniques, performance, anything other than dealing with the emotional issues often unresolved in a relationship.

So, learning sex techniques and then trying to apply them in a relationship where you haven’t been having sex often just creates more confusion and problems. The same thing with taking Viagra or other medicines can create pressure in a relationship where a couple has not been having sex and then one person starts bringing toys, new sexual techniques, pills to the relationship. High conflict can often ensue and this can be confusing and hurtful to the couple.

One of the foundations for great sex is the ability of couples to communicate, to have self-awareness about what they like, the role and purpose that each person is using in sex, how to align sexual preferences, such as timing, frequency, styles and often what is needed to get each person in the mood. Many couples do not learn this. Most of the Google searches and education focuses on techniques and doing, however, all the techniques and doing won’t overcome unresolved issues around conflict, sexual mismatch, unresolved hurts.

All In The Family Counselling recognizes couples may not be ready for therapy, but want education. We are providing a series of educational talks around sex, communicating about sex, learning how to request and turn down sex and a variety of topics about sexual education. Our talks will be confidential and anonymous, so people don’t have to worry about revealing their identity or feeling uncomfortable. You can participate as much or as little as you would like. They will be talking about case studies and have opportunity through question and answer.

We provide thoughtfully taylored confidential education classes. We realize not everyone is ready for therapy. Visit our website to learn about these: https://allinthefamilycounselling.com/educational-group-work

To learn more contact us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com or whatsap us at +6590307239

All In The Family Counselling Center is one of the leading therapy institutes in Singapore and Southeast Asia and Thailand. We have been providing therapy for just under two decades. Tammy Fontana, lead therapist, has extensive experience and training in sex therapy, marriage counselling, individual counselling, sex and intimacy, communication, infidelity, anxiety and depression. Contact us to learn more!