Pre marriage sex

Pre marriage sex

Are you planing to get married and both you and your partner are virgins and are nervous about your first time having sex? Are you in a recently married relationship in which you have yet to consummate your sex life and are very nervous about that? Are both you and/or your partner nervous about having sex and not knowing how to manage your feelings about your sexual experience? Do you feel that you need coaching or guidance on how to organise and arrange a good sexual relationship?

It’s not uncommon for couples who have waited until their adult life and to get married to have sex to feel a lot of nervousness and apprehension. There are both, excitement and filled with anticipation, as well as nerves in starting this aspect of their married life. You may have waited 20 or 30 years to have sex and feel uncertained or unsure what it will be like. You may feel very uncomfortable talking to your partner about what you like or don’t like. You may be very nervous about is your body normal, are your reactions normal, are your responses normal. All of these things are common experiences for people who are starting their married sex life later in life and don’t have much experience outside of their current relationship.

Many times people’s only understanding of sex is through watching porn. While porn does accurately depict people enjoying sex, it is not a documentary or designed to be instructional. So therefore, many people are left very curious, lacking confidence in themselves and their ability to do sex. They are preoccupied with not knowing how to proceed and deliver a good sex life.

Too often people are preoccupied and focused on one type of sex, intercourse, the only sex that requires an erect penis as a way of having sex. However, sex involves so much more of talking, hugging, kissing, holding, massaging and many other things. The goal of sex is not intercourse which produces orgasm but to do whatever feels good. Men in particular can fall victim of over focusing on their penis and how to keep it hard to have sex. Paradoxically this results in erection difficulties because they are focusing on the wrong things: their penis instead of their wife.

If you feel that your understanding of intimate, romantic, connecting sex is lacking or perhaps you’ve even had a few bad experiences that have left you doubting your ability to develop a good sex life in your relationship, All In The Family Counselling Centre Pte LTd can help you.

All In The Family Counselling Center Pt. Ltd. provides education, couple counselling, individual counselling, group courses and education on sex in a marriage. If you would like to feel a safe environment with somebody who has knowledge and the ability to guide you through this, please contact All In The Family Counselling Center Pt. Ltd. at +65 9030 7239 to schedule an initial consultation.

All In The Family Counselling Center Pt. Ltd. has been providing individual marriage and sexual therapy to Southeast Asia and Singapore for over a decade and a half. We provide therapy for individuals, couples and difficult cases. If you would like to learn how we can help you, please contact us to find out more. Tammy Fontana, the lead therapist, can be reached at +65 9030 7239 or e-mail us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com We provide expat english speaking therapy. We have lived for 2 decades in SE ASIA and are experienced in Asia and Western Culture.