Sex is hard

Sex is hard

Are you recently married or in an arranged marriage and you are finding sex to be more difficult than you ever thought? Were you a virgin when you got married and finding sex to be difficult or hard to consummate? Have your first experiences of sex been disappointing, frustrating, painful or difficult?

For many people who grow up in cultures where sex is forbidden, or talk of sexuality and sexual expression are discouraged or not allowed it can limit one’s knowledge or development of their own comfort with one’s own sexuality. Not getting helpful exposure to members of the opposite sex may have limited your skill development and comfort in knowing how to talk to and relate to a member of the opposite sex in a romantic and sexually intimate way.

Too often people have very limited knowledge and comfort with the emotional and relational  aspects of sex. Too often people will get their ideas about sex from porn or elicit material that is often distorted and misrepresentative of what real relational sex is like and how it feels emotionally.  People often refer to sex as intimacy, but sex can be anything but intimate if we don’t feel comfortable sharing what we like or how things make us feel. This ability to connect about how the emotions and feelings of what we like and don’t like make sex intimate.

Unfortunately many individuals with this kind of back ground enter into marriage with very unrealistic ideas and expectations of what sex will look like and how it will feel. They often think something else besides them will make it easy. They think sex will be easy as just a matter of having intercourse and everything will go well. And as a result,for these unknowing couples, who may be strangers or uncomfortable with their own sexuality or uncomfortable with they own bodies, will find sex to be difficult, awkward, disappointing, hard and anything but pleasurable.

Too often many of these people have very inaccurate information about sex. Their ideas of sex are limited to intercourse, they do not know how to communicate and talk to their partner about what they like or what they do not like. They often attribute the negative sex experience to themselves and at least to a lot of frustration, embarrassment and shame. https://allinthefamilycounselling.com/sex-intimacy-help/

If you would like help in understanding about how to develop a healthy sex life, getting proper sex education, learning how to communicate, what you like with your partner, All In The Family Counselling Center Pt. Ltd. can help you. Our lead therapist, Tammy Fontana, is a clinically trained sex therapist as well as a relationship therapist. She has worked with many couples and helping them to develop the loving and positive sexual experience they will like. Contact us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com  to learn how we can help you.

All In The Family Counselling Centre has been providing therapy for over a decade and a half. We are providing online therapy to help couples and individuals with their life and their relationship. Contact us to learn more how we can help you. You can send us a WhatsApp at +65 9030 7239. Our therapist is an E

nglish speaking Expat therapist with over 2 decades of working and living in SE ASIA.