Female sexual performance
Are you a woman wanting to improve her sexual performance? Do you suffer from vaginismus or fear of sex? Do you often feel anxious and nervous about sex? Have you been given negative sex messages your whole life and now that you are married or in a loving relationship the idea of having sex is fearful and anxiety producing for you?
Unfortunately, many women are given negative sex messages throughout their childhood and adolescence. They are told to wait, they are told it’s dirty, perhaps they are even told they won’t really enjoy it or it’s their duty, as a wife, to give this to their husband but not to have a lot of expectations. The result is many women are disconnected from their bodies and they don’t feel sexual pleasure or enjoyment. They often enter into relationships with huge amounts of anxiety or apprehension.
Many women are entering into sex expecting it to be painful and negative, and have a hard time relaxing. Then when they have sexual experiences, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Their tense and anxious bodies produce tension in the pelvic floor which can produce pain upon commencement of intercourse, and therefore it is painful. This can lead to frustration for both partners, unsatisfying sex, disappointment, anger hostility and rejection.
For the woman, she is confused, scared and often feeling alone. She may not be able to explain it or understand it for herself, much less be able to do that for her partner. The parent is confused, often feeling rejected and frustrated. It is terrible sad and disconnecting for the couple. Too often couples resist seeking therapy for many years, which results in an embedded negative association to sex.
If you and your partner are facing something similar and struggling to understand how you can make your sex life better and enjoyable, contact All In The Family Counselling Centre Pt. Ltd. to learn how we can help you. https://allinthefamilycounselling.com/sex-intimacy-help/
The desire for an enjoyable sexual experience, a positive outcome of closeness and connection, is something that all people want for sex. Sex inherently is not intimate. Intimacy needs to start first between the couples outside the bedore in order to produce a positive sexual experience. This starts from getting good sexual education and information helping you to relax and enjoy sex in the way that you want to feel it.
Contact All In The Family Counselling Pte Ltd via WhatsApp at +65 9030 7239 so we can help schedule an initial consultation so you can learn how we can help you learn how to enjoy sex and improve your sexual performance.
All In The Family Counselling Center Pt. Ltd. is one of the oldest counselling centers in Singapore. Tammy Fontana, the director, has been providing therapy for over a decade. She is one of the only clinically trained sex therapists in Singapore, helping clients improve their sexual performance and sex lives. Email us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com
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