What does it mean that your erections and orgasms are changing



What does it mean that your erections and orgasms are changing

Are you a man approaching his forties or fifties and have noticed a change in your orgasms? Have you found that your orgasms don’t occur after each time you have sex? Have you noticed that your orgasms may not reliably follow amazing, satisfying sex? Have you felt very frustrated and confused by this happening?

 

How has your partner reacted to the fact that you don’t have an orgasm each time after you have sex? Does she feel hurt, confused and blame herself? Do you guys, as a couple, struggle to discuss the change in your orgasms? Do you feel frustrated and confused that you can no longer reliably orgasm after each sex and cannot figure out what you’re doing differently or what you’re doing wrong? Do you go over each time and analyze the sex? Do you find that you are becoming more and more preoccupied with your orgasms, your erections, and less focused on enjoying the quality and pleasure of sex?

 

Are you somebody who’s looking to get back to enjoying sex and be less focused on erections, orgasms and disappointing yourself and your partner?

Many men they are not aware of the aging life cycle of their body. In particular, they are unaware of how their sexuality and sexual performance will change as they age.

 

Aging does not mean that a man will become less sexually active, reduce the sex quality or have less sex, as many people believe. However, the aging life cycle does require men to develop and expand their understanding of masculinity and their approach to sex and love making.

 

For many people, as they age, physical pain becomes a new reality of their sexual experience. As men age, their erections will change. A man’s their ability to orgasm reliably and predictably each time they have sex is often likely to be affected.

 

Many men and their partners are not aware of this change in the life cycle, especially as they advance in years and start to approach forty, fifty and sixties. For many couples this change is often met with confusion, hurt and anger.

 

For many men, they are faced with a partner who thinks their loss of orgasms or change in erection is attributed to less sexual desire to them. Many men get accused of cheating, of not being interested in their partner or that they no longer want to have sex. And, despite the man’s honest and truthful protestations that it’s not true, they cannot solve the problem. They cannot reliably change their erections or their orgasms.

 

Often, their uninformed partner becomes upset. This can lead to a man getting anxiety that around his sexual experience. More anxiety will produce more sexual problems, whether it’s with erections or with orgasms.

 

If you are finding this to be the case with you and you are feeling overwhelmed or confused, frustrated by the lack of reliable orgasms and not sure how to deal with your partner who is upset, hurt and withdrawing, therapy can be a safe place for you . Therapy is to explore how to address these changes and your sexuality. Therapy will assist you to learn new skills and vocabulary to communicate your desire. Therapy will help you to expand your vocabulary and concepts around sex, sexuality, masculinity. Most importantly it will help to learn how to have enjoyable sex as you age.

 

If you would like to learn more about how therapy could help you individually, or as a couple, please contact Tammy Fontana at All in the Family Counseling Centre Pte ltd to schedule an initial consultation to have you evaluated for suitability for therapy either individually or as a couple. You can contact her at +6590307239 and is best to send a WhatsApp to arrange for an initial consultation.

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