Enjoyable Intimacy
Do you find it hard to relax when you are about to have intimacy with your partner? When you are approaching sex, do you find that you have a hard time relaxing your body and staying in focus? Does sometimes the fear of having an orgasm frighten you? Do you have a fear of losing control and letting go? Are you often preoccupied and distracted when your partner is trying to be intimate with you? Does anxiety seem to be getting in the way of something that is supposed to be pleasurable and enjoyable, such as intimacy with your partner?For many people, they find it very difficult to relax and ease into an enjoyable experience such as intimacy or sex with their partner. For many people, there is a preoccupation and worry about how their body works, what they look like and if they are they doing it right. Many other people have a concern about losing control, even if it’s for the few seconds of an orgasm.
Their partners may struggle to understand how something that is so enjoyable and pleasurable cause so much anxiety. This can make intimacy very disconnecting for a couple.
The reality is, for many people, sex is a difficult area for them to relax, because it is one area where they are not in control of the whole process. Having sex with their partner leaves them feeling out of control. The person is producing many worries about the whole intimacy process.
Even though they intellectually know sex is fun, they are not able to manage their feelings and fears around it enough to able to relax and enjoy it. This can often create avoiding behavior such as avoiding sex, making excuses for why you don’t want to do it. The anxiety can also cause tense muscles leading to painful sex.
If you or your partner are struggling with being able to enjoy sex, and you know that your partner has issues around relaxing, letting go and focusing and staying in the present, therapy can be a helpful solution. Therapy is a way to help people learn how to change their thinking, find new ways of being in control and learning how to enjoy pleasurable things such as sex. If you would like to learn more about how therapy can help you, please contact All in the Family Counseling Centre at +6590307239.
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