LACK of TRUST AND the ENSUING CONFLICT it Causes: How to build trust
Does your relationship often have fights around trust? Do you have problems trusting your partner? Is there issues where trust has been broken in your relationship or previous relationships and trusting is difficult for you? Do you find that discussions around trust, what the person is doing, who they are with, often lead to big conflict? Are you struggling with how to feel safe in your relationship? Do you have low self-esteem?
Trust issues in a relationship often result in very nasty fights. When one person doesn’t know how to do boundaries and feel safe in a relationship, they often make the other person responsible for their safety.
They are wanting the other person to tell them where they are, what they are doing, behave in certain ways. They are often questioning the other person’s motivation, why they are doing something – everything gets called into question. Innocent acts or gestures become shaded with suspicion and doubt. The other person is often left in a very defensive position, trying to explain themselves and in the process of explaining themselves they look more and more guilty. Things are often taken out of context, misunderstood and escalated.
Another common phenomena is the person who is trying to appease the doubting person or the person who lacks trust. They will agree to do things that they can’t follow through and then when they can’t follow through they lose the moral high ground creating more mistrust in a relationship. When we have these situations trust deteriorates, misunderstandings and conflict ensue.
If this sounds like your relationship and you really want to make it work, therapy can help you address these issues. If you are not ready for therapy, All in the Family Counselling Centre has designed educational series to teach people how to build trust. Our educational series acknowledge that some people are not ready for therapy and they want information before they do therapy. Our educational series are online and confidential and will give you access to highly trained professional but with the privacy at your home.
We provide thoughtfully taylored confidential education classes. We realize not everyone is ready for therapy. Visit our website to learn about these: https://allinthefamilycounselling.com/educational-group-work
Most people have difficulty seeking help because of the stigma or their own personal embarrassment or shame they have around it and the meaning they give to it.
All in the Family Counselling has been providing therapy to Southeast Asia for just under two decades. Tammy Fontana, our lead therapist, has extensive experience in working with difficult cases around trust, infidelity, sex and intimacy, conflict and communication, parenting, depression and anxiety. She can help you, whether it’s through our educational series or individual or couple counselling. To learn more about how we can help you, contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org or whatsapp us at +6590307239
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