How can therapist help me

How can therapist help me

Are you wondering how a therapist can help you when they don’t know anything about you? Have you been skeptical about getting therapy because you don’t want to talk about private and personal things with somebody? Do you have this idea that therapy is about going into a therapist’s office and crying? Are you skeptical that a therapist, who doesn’t know anything about you, can help you?

Therapy is a process and many people often wonder what that means. It is true when you say “How could a therapist help me when they don’t know anything about me?”  As I tell many of my clients that’s true, it takes me time to get to know you, that is actually part of the therapy.

Therapy is building a relationship between the therapist and the client, which could be an individual or a couple. The therapist, myself, heals through the relationship. In building a relationship with people I start to see how they handle emotional regulation, how well they express themselves, what kind of boundaries they have, how they respect boundaries, how they are able to follow instructions and I learn a lot of information about them. In the process, they will also be learning information about me and as we do this, we start to form a team. This is all about the therapy, as we do this trust is slowly being built.

As trust is built and I get a better insight into how the person thinks, how they perceive the world, how they perceive themselves, how they manage and handle boundaries, I then start to hold up a “mirror to them”. This “mirror” is to help people become aware of their thinking, their belief systems, their ideas, fixed or otherwise, that are creating problems for them in their lives, whether it is regarding emotional regulation, mental health, depression or anxiety.

Therapy occurs one time a week for 50 minutes. During this period, the therapist is assessing the client, is teaching them skills, is making them aware, but then they will have homework. Therapy deals with people’s ideas, beliefs and ways of thinking. The idea that you need to be in a physical office with the therapist is an outdated idea. Some therapists still do this, others do it in a variation, at All in the Family Counselling we do face-to-face via online therapy. Why do we do this? Because it allows us for the greatest flexibility in hours, days and times and to provide in-person we provide retreats and travel therapy.

All in the Family Counselling has been providing therapy for over two decades and face-to-face via online therapy since 2016. The therapist is skilled in building relationships through helping people to understand more about their feelings, empathy, connection, self-awareness, emotional regulation and boundary. All of these are the skills that are required for a happy healthy life and good positive relationships.

If you would like to learn more about how therapy can benefit you, especially if you are facing challenges in your life, such as poor relationships, anger management, communication problems, loneliness, isolation, fraud, imposter syndrome, contact us now. We can be reached at +65 9030 7239 or email us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com. All in the Family Counselling Centre has been providing therapy for just under two decades. Our lead therapist, Tammy Fontana, has extensive training in working with difficult cases, complex developmental trauma, infidelity, communication issues, imposter syndrome, fraud, anxiety, depression. She has clinically specialized in sex and sexuality. Contact us to learn more.