Grown up skills we need to avoid anger
Are you somebody who has been described as having an anger management problem? Do you often blow up when things don’t go the way that you want? Has your partner threaten to leave you or stop talking with you because of your anger? Has your anger cost you relationships maybe even risked job advancement? Are you in a relationship with somebody who often gets angry when things don’t go the way they want?
Many people self described themselves as having an anger management problem. But when we look more closely at what an anger management problem really means, a better description is the individual lacks growing up life skills to help them handle the everyday occurences of dealing with life and it’s disappointments.
What does this mean? This means that the individual who has anger management skills has not learned the following:
- How to deal with things when they don’t go the exact way they want to go.
- How to deal with
- To realize that it is a normal thing to not get what you want in the exact way you want it.
- Learning how to accept second, third or even fourth choice.
- Learning self soothing and positive internal talk.
- Learning how to reframe and see new choices in the face of not getting what you want.
These are really key skills that every grown up needs to have in order to be successful and navigate life difficulties. People who have anger management problems are often people who have learned that anger would get what they want because they keep being with people who will accept it, until they don’t.
If you are in a relationship with somebody that has an anger management problems, skills building through therapy can help you learn how to set better boundaries and understand what is going on. If you are the person with the anger management issue, skills therapy can help you develop the grown up skills that you need to navigate life’s disappointments, challenges and other difficulties.
All in the Family Counselling has been providing therapy for over a decade. We have been providing online therapy for over four years. We have a comprehensive scientific approach to help people get the life and relationships they want.
If you would like to learn more about how therapy can help you, please contact us at +65 9030 7239 and send us a WhatsApp and we’ll get you the right information and how you can make an initial consultation. Life doesn’t have to be as difficult as it may seem to be. All you need is the right skills and redirection. Therapy can help you to get those.
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