CONSTANT FEAR OF DISAPPOINTING LOVED ONES

CONSTANT FEAR OF DISAPPOINTING LOVED ONES

Do you live in constant fear that you will disappoint your family, your partner, your spouse or your friends? Are you often overthinking what other people think? Do you live in fear of being judged by those closest to you? Are you constantly worrying and filled with self-doubt? Do you find that you cut yourself off from seeking advice or guidance from other people because you fear their judgement? Do you often feel like you are a horrible person who is not worthy of kindness, love and respect?

If you relate to those worries or fears, these are things that therapy can help you address. Maybe you are not aware that it’s not normal or healthy to feel such a paralyzing fear of judgement or unworthiness.

Developing healthy self-esteem that can lead to having healthy boundaries is a very important developmental task. Unfortunately, many people don’t get this. As a result, they often question themselves, they don’t feel that they are a good person and they have a hard time evaluating their own behaviour, they may even struggle with what they want because they get confused by what they want and how other people that are close to them react, they often have a hard time making decisions or knowing what is right because they are constantly worried about disappointing or upsetting other people. All of this creates confusion and difficulties in setting boundaries with other people, whether those boundaries are emotional, behavioral or physical.

All in the Family Counselling helps people to learn who they are, what they like, what they want and then how to take ownership over their preferences and lear how to set boundaries with other people. Having healthy boundaries in a way of understanding who you are is absolutely critical for having good interpersonal relationships with friends, family and romantic partners. If you don’t have healthy boundaries, there is the potential for emotional abuse, physical abuse and overall low quality of life. Poor boundaries lead to misunderstanding, conflict, arguments and a difficulty in maintaining long-term intimate relationships.

If this sounds familiar to you and you are curious about how therapy might help you learn about yourself, learn who you are, what you want and to establish boundaries to those closest to you, contact us at +65 9030 7239 or email us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com.

All in the Family Counselling Centre has been providing therapy services to Southeast Asia and Singapore for just under two decades. Tammy Fontana, lead therapist, has also been providing therapy for just under two decades to Southeast Asia and Singapore. She specializes in difficult cases for individuals or couples, as well as issues around sex and intimacy, infidelity, communication and conflict, anxiety and depression, anger management and other issues related to one’s mental health. Contact us now!