Afraid to be single and alone

Afraid to be single and alone

Are you afraid to be single? Do you think being single is the same as being alone? Are you afraid of never meeting anybody and dying alone? Does the fear of being single get you to be spending a lot of time on dating apps? Do you often find that you are in relationships with more than one person and lying to all of them? Are you often overcome with embarrassment and shame at the decisions and choices that you make, because you are so afraid to be single?

Living with the fear of being alone can drive a person to make decisions that they may not be proud of. This is not necessarily a reflection of the person’s character but rather they have not developed the skills and self identity to learn how to be on their own. Many people who are afraid of being alone or without a partner are looking for a partner to give them things that a partner cannot give them. A lot of people who are afraid of being single are looking for somebody to love them unconditionally, to complete them, to spend a lot of time with them, and basically give them a life that they do not know how to do on their own.

Unfortunately, this belief, that a romantic partner can give purpose, meaning and a fulfilling life,  leads to a lot of drama and disappointment. The main reason is because a romantic partner cannot provide a life for another person nor can give a person a sense of self-worth or identity.

If you feel like you are not loveable and that you do not have a life , therapy can help you find your own centre and purpose so you can get the love and relationships you want. If you do not know where you are going and you are really bored therapy not a romantic partner, can help you find your way.  You may be getting tired of this current path and the dead ends that it leads, therapy can help you find your way..

Learning  how to have a healthy fulfilling relationship requires a person to be a fully formed grown up with the ability to self-regulate, healthy boundaries and know what they want and understand respect other people’s boundaries and whishes.

So, if you would like to have better relationship skills, learn self soothing and figure out who you are, what you want and how to set boundaries in order to get the healthy relationships that you would like, please contact All In The Family Counselling Centre PTE LTD. Please send us a WhatsApp at +65 9030 7239.

All In The Family Counselling Centre Pte Ltd and Tammy Fontana, director, have been providing therapy for over a decade. We specialise in difficult cases, attachment and early childhood trauma, anxiety, depression and sexual issues. Please contact us to make an initial appointment and find out how we can help you.