According Dr. William Glasser, happiness or mental health is enjoying the life you are choosing to live, getting along well with the people near and dear to you, doing something with your life you believe is worthwhile and not doing anything to deprive anyone else of the same chance for happiness.
The ability to be happy, deal with stress and life unexpected happenings is a learned skill or ability. Some of us do it better than others do to family of origin, education and life experiences. What most people don’t realize is that we can learn more effective skills for optimal mental health.
Mental health is very similar to physical health. Just as in physical health there is a broad spectrum of being very unfit to being a highly trained athlete, mental health is the same way. We can be very mentally well by being happy and emotionally stably or go to the other end of the spectrum and be completely depressed and anxiety ridden. There is a huge range in between.
The difference between mentally healthy and mentally unhealthy is the ability to recognize it and do something about it. Mentally healthy people tend to look inward and see what they can change, and perhaps even seek help. Mentally unhealthy people tend to look outward and are often frustrated by what they cannot control and tend to resort to depressing, anxiety, angering or other self-destructive behaviors.
How one stays at the happy end, depends on their skills and ability to maintain good positive relationship and cope with life’s stresses and challenges. Wellness Counselling can provide individuals and couples with more effective skills to prepare for a marriage, adjust to a new baby in the family and deal with infertility and treatments. Wellness Counselling also can provide individuals with better skills for managing stress and anxiety as well as give them tools to improve important relationship.
A benefit of wellness counselling or preventative counselling is that it gives you skills before you really get into problems and results in shorter treatment. Couples thinking about marriage can learn effective skills for communication and conflict management. People expecting babies can also learn how to develop skills to manage gender roles and parental responsibilities while maintaining couple intimacy. Infertility counselling can teach couples how to manage stress and anxiety as well as deal with grief for failed cycles each month.