Making over your marriage is about learning new effective communication skills that can ensure you a life time of happiness and help you navigate difficult obstacles that can arise in a marriage such as children, sex, career and time spent together or apart. Too often married couples only engage professional marriage counselling at a crisis such as cheating in the marriage, or infertility or when the state when a marriage is so far gone that repair and improvement is difficult at best.
What I’ve seen as an expat marriage counsellor and what the research shows is that married couples experience a decline in marriage satisfaction in their relationship but wait on average 6 years before getting professional marriage counselling help, at which point the ability to repair and improve the relationship is greatly diminished and infidelity or separation and divorce have occurred.
Professional marriage Counselling for relationships is most effective with couples when they come at the onset of decline in a relationship. Drs. Gottman, relationship researchers, stated the common signs of doom for a relationship are harsh startup to conversation, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and the most deadly, contempt. A good expat counsellor will have the tools, skills and knowledge to teach you how to positive eliminate these these behaviors and replace with effective behaviors.
Since what we learn about relationships comes primarily from the model that our parents give us and knowing that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce and many continue on in a state of unhappiness, the average person really doesn’t have the most effective tools to make a relationship successful much less happy.
Marriage counselling teaches couples effective communications tools for their relationship. Couple counselling also teaches clients how to manage perceptions, how to put the relationship first and ultimately improve communication so that the individuals turn towards each other rather than away from each other.
Even if both people in the marriage don’t want to attend, just one person can learn how to improve their relationship skills resulting in an improvement from our expat couple counsellor. This is because our behavior causes a reaction in the other person. If we change our behavior we can create change in our relationship.
4 Deadly Horsemen of Doom in a Relationships, by Dr. Gottman
Our expat marriage counsellor is a certified choice theory reality therapy therapist as well as having her Master's Degree in Mental Health Counselling from the United States She has also received Level 1 training directly from the renown Drs. Gottman. Lastly she has specialized training in Gestalt and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Ms. Fontana has over 6000 hours of training and continues to enhance her skills through continuing education.
If you would like to learn how to improve your relationship please do not hesitate to contact us to learn more at 9030 7239