All About Counselling: How it Works & What it Looks like with Us
Article to help people who have never done counselling understand how it works, what the therapist does and doesn't do and what are the responsibilities of the client
Commonly asked questions with straight talking answers
Never been to counselling before and wonder how it works? Read this article to help you prepare for your first counselling session
Choice Theory and Therapy is an excellent form of therapy to help individuals, parents or couples see change rapidly. Most of what takes so much time in traditional psychotherapy is eliminated in Choice Psychology.
FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions About Counselling
Wondering about the difference between a psychiatrist, psychologist, mental health counsellor and social worker? Read here
Think you have a communication problem or perplexed why you cannot solve disagreements in your relationship? read here
Are you someone who keeps saying you'll TRY to do something but keep getting in a huge fight with your spouse because they want you to DO something. Read this to learn more
Waiting until your marriage is almost dead to seek counselling may be waiting to long and become too late to save it,
Understand how counselling works and how to get the most out of therapy with a professionally trained counsellor
What's the right way to use all the free information on the internet about mental health
Understand how counselling is different and more effective from getting advice and why you should use a professional counsellor for individual and relationship issues.
How we help couples get the marriage they want
Re-examine the effectiveness of trying to answer your "why" questions as to what is not working in your life
This article helps to explain how counselling helps people to get better and improve their relationships
Learn how you can save your marriage even if your partner doesn't want to attend counselling in the beginning.
Our society has yet to normalize that mentally healthy people can and do face difficulties. The truth is that Mentally Healthy people seek help! Seeking help doesn’t mean you are unwell, it just means you realize the limitation of your scope of knowledge and competency and you seek out experts to help you get to what you want.
It's not what you think it is.
Relying on hope to fix a problem marriage, improve your parenting skills, address the anxiety or depression in your life is risky. People loose valuable time to make effective change waiting and hoping something different will result from their continued course of action.
Tips for how to get happiness in your life and understand what research says makes people happy
Being mentally healthy or happy is not an all or nothing state, rather you can learn effective skills to increase your happiness and improve your relationships
Start your new year off right by getting happy. Read how...
Clinical Discussion of Mental Health Problems
Depression isn't an emotion we are victim to but rather our brain's creative way to try and get our needs met...check out this new perspective
Moving beyond a label or drugs, how to look at treat depression
Anxiety is not something that happens to a person, rather it is a person's creative system trying to solve for problems. Anxiety is about the future and a person's belief that they can't handle whatever the world may throw at them, so they they try to control the world, but this isn't possible.
Parents need to arm themselves with information about how to make decision to treat their child's behavioral issues. Understanding that the chemical balance talk is only a hypothesis, there are no actual blood tests to confirm this and that often the best course of treatment is improved parenting skills to address child behavior issues.
Many people come to me with greatly misinformed ideas about what constitutes an alcoholic. Many people tend see it very black and white, either I'm okay with alcohol or I'm an alcoholic. The reality of alcoholism or Alcohol abuse disorder (AAD) is that it is more a grey scale on a continuum from abstinence to full blown alcoholism.
People keep choosing anger because it works, understand how anger is used and why people keep doing it
Make sure you have a real anger management problem and not a relationship or situational anger issue, the difference affects the treatment
Discussion of anger's purpose and what happens when it goes wrong
Men are victims of domestic violence. Often the abuse takes the form of emotional abuse and then escalates to physical. Read about the signs
If you are living with a person that has a substance abuse problem, you may be more effective in bringing about change if you seek help for yourself in learning how to deal with the person rather than trying to force the person to come into therapy
A clinical review of the literature that shows people's belief about how sex works contributes to them incorrectly defining the problem and resulting in sexual problems
Issues About Sex and Sexuality
How does sex therapy work and help couples to resolve the challenges they are experiencing with their sex life
Are you doing any of these and have a bad sex life, read what you can do differently
What is and isn't a sex problem
Sex is rarely about sex in a relationship, it's about power, read more
If you label a sexual behavior as a problem, that label may be more of the problem than the behavior itself. Read more
Wondering what does it mean if your partner is visiting a dating website...it may mean nothing
What are the things you need to discuss when clarifying what constitutes cheating or a break in the fidelity of the relationship
Understanding how you talk and think about sex can make it worse or better
Can you mix the two? Porn and relationship sex, read more to find out
Guidance on how to handle this issue
Too many people focusing on the Doing: the frequency, the position, the orgasm but this is often the wrong approach
Couples unwittingly decide someone is to blame for their poor sex life and often start blaming each other. This doesn't work, read our article to learn more
Porn use seems to have everyone believing this is why men are having more erectile dysfunction. Read more why this myth is not true
There are many false statements and beliefs that people keep telling each other and that are going around the internet. Get the straight information
Masturbation vs. Relationship Sex: What is the difference and why people choose one versus the other when they have a choice
Taking a look at reasons people may choose to masturbate even when they can and do have relationship sex.
If you are taking viagra or any other drug like that and it doesn't work, it is often a signal that the problem is relational not physiological
It's not what you think it is
Understandingg what are motivations behind reduced requests for sex in a relationship
How you define sex may be creating your sex problems
Sexual problems are generally not about sex, they are about a whole host of issues that include self-image, self-critism...
What is normal sex and am I normal are 2 of the most sex questions. Understanding what is normal about sex.
It may be the root of your problem
The meaning either person gives to a lost or soften erection has serious implications for a couple’s sex life, consider some alternative meanings
Help people to people to get a better context for why some people choose porn and to look at how couples deal with porn and the possible reasons a partner chooses porn.
Continuing to demystify porn
Porn is not sex education, but you can learn some things about sex from it
Understanding how issues in the relationship can create choices for a person to cheat
Issues to look at when trying to make sense of how your partner choose to have an affair
Key points for parents and how to start this conversation
All About Marriage Counselling
Examples of couples that have improved their relationship through counselling
Communication problems in marriage don't exist, it's the fact that people don't like what they hear their partner saying. understanding some realities about marriage
Many marriage problems arise out the fact that spouses cannot agree on how to parent their kids. This constant tension resulting from disagreement starts to bleed into other areas of the relationship and sex life. Not figuring out how to create a joint parenting plan creates problems for couples.
Questions couples should consider before one person stops working
Romantic relationships, in order to be need satisfying to both people, must have an effective relationship framework.
Magical thinking and doing more of ineffective behaviors prevents couples from making effective changes to their marriage to save it.
One significant factor for relationship decline is that one or both partners carry unrealistic expectations about how a marriage or relationships work.
The number one way to prevent infidelity in a marriage is to maintain a strong friendship in which both people’s needs are met. All people are genetically encoded for survival, love and belonging, power and control, freedom and fun.
Problems in your marriage are real if you’ve stopped having sex, you start fantasizing about another person real or imagined, you argue more than you can you cooperate and often feel resentful, infidelity whether emotional or sexual and when you start to mentally disengaging from your marriage and start thinking about how life would be without your partner. These are signs that your marriage is trouble.
Issues couples face when considering undergoing infertility treatments to achieve pregnancy
By developing strong relationships skill prior to the baby arriving you can positively influence your child’s intellectual and emotional development. In addition relationship skills can help you prevent relationship meltdown and infidelity.
Learn how to be more effective in your marriage and stop fighting
To keep a marriage strong you must keep the focus on your relationship...this articles discusses the challenge that affects relationships when child become the foundation of the relationship instead of the adults forging the foundation.
Couple Counselling is about building skills, not complaining, blaming and fault finding in the relationship- this doesn’t help anyone. Counselling helps couples to get to the root of the nonproductive conflicts and poor communication.
Some ways to help you evaluate if you should repair or end your marriage
Tips to help you talk to your partner so you can get more cooperation
Learn how to be more effective when you are having an argument
Don't wait until things are really bad to seek help and protect your relationship, read about preventative counselling for pre-marriage, infertility, bringing home baby, and baby sleep help
How to improve your existing relationship
Learn how to keep your relationship strong as an Expat in Singapore
Counselling for Cheating or Infidelity in Marriage
Upon discovery of infidelity people are faced with many choices of what to do. Make sure you don't do something you'll later regret or ruin your chances to save your marriage if that is something you think you may want
No one gets a user manual on what to once an infidelity, as defined by one or both parties is discovered. Here are some things people need to consider before making any decision.
Article discusses the many reasons a person chooses to have sex, debunking some popular myths that it is all about sex
Understand what is required to repair and improve your marriage after cheating is discovered
Some key things to look at to see if you still want to save your relationship
Learn the top things you must consider when finding out about infidelity
PreMarriage Counselling Articles
A 2012 UCLA Study shows a link between having doubts about your finance and an increase risk of divorce at year 4. Pre-marriage counselling can reduce the change of divorce
The reality is that marriage is a unique relationship that requires unique skills to manage effective communications in order for both people in the relationship to get their needs met. The skills for communication or conflict manage we use at work or as a parent - don’t work in a marriage.
Understanding how perceptions and expectations can negatively impact a relationship and lead to reduced positive communication between spouses.
Parenting & Sleep Help
Is our decision to put off addressing your child's sleep based on good information?
There are many harmful sleep myths that keep persisting today in spite of good research to the contrary. In large part, this is due to the internet search phenomena and also how the human brain works. These persisting sleep myths are the number 1 reason why sleep training fails and gets a bad reputation. The sleep training methods are fine, but often people implement them incorrectly, or use a good sleep training tool on the wrong sleep problem.
Understanding common parenting discipline mistakes in the context of child development and behavior
Understanding your child's behavior
Help to distinguish a child's normal sleep patterns from troubled sleep
One of the main reasons sleep training fails is that people are applying a good sleep training tool to the wrong sleep problem. When parents and children are not sleeping it makes everyone cranky. Actually lack of sleep is an official recognized form of torchure. When we are not getting we get desperate and start doing anything to get sleep.
This article discuss how over 30 studies have been conducted showing that both enough sleep and quality sleep are related to academic performance for children
Understanding some of the bizarre yet normal sleep behaviors of your children
Understanding normal sleep behavior and sleep amounts
A discussion of how important instilling self regulation is in your child
Understand why talking to your child under 12 isn't the most effective way to communicate
How to tell if your child is being bullied and what to do about it
Understanding the importance of sleep for adults and children and what to do if its not working
Make an informed choice about how you want your child to sleep
Experts in the field of child behavior believe physical abuse teaches children to be submissive, fearful, and/or aggressive. It also teaches them hitting is a way to control other people and solve problems.
Infertility Counselling & Help
This is a letter written by a member of our infertility support group to her friends and she wanted to share it and make sure that all women are aware of how to protect the fertility and hopefully avoid the pain of infertility.
This is an article on the proper way to manage relationships and issues of infertility with women and men that are struggling with it.
This article is for all people wondering what to say or how to support their friend who is dealing with infertility
This is article is written to help you understand how to respond to someone that has experienced a loss, whether its is a much hope for pregnancy, a loved-one or a job.