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All About Counselling: How it Works & What it Looks like with Us

How Counselling Works

Article to help people who have never done counselling understand how it works, what the therapist does and doesn't do and what are the responsibilities of the client

What Counselling Therapy Looks Like With Our Therapist

Choice Theory and Therapy is an excellent form of therapy to help individuals, parents or couples see change rapidly. Most of what takes so much time in traditional psychotherapy is eliminated in Choice Psychology.

How you define the problem may ensure that you never fix it

Think you have a communication problem or perplexed why you cannot solve disagreements in your relationship? read here

No Problem Talk Here!

Understand how counselling works and how to get the most out of therapy with a professionally trained counsellor

Is the Internet getting in your Way of getting Effective Mental Health Help

What's the right way to use all the free information on the internet about mental health

Counselling vs. Getting Advice

Understand how counselling is different and more effective from getting advice and why you should use a professional counsellor for individual and relationship issues.

How we Help Couples

How we help couples get the marriage they want

Stop Chasing Why!

Re-examine the effectiveness of trying to answer your "why" questions as to what is not working in your life

Demystifying the Change in the Counselling Process

This article helps to explain how counselling helps people to get better and improve their relationships

Going it Solo...Couple Counselling?

Learn how you can save your marriage even if your partner doesn't want to attend counselling in the beginning.

Courage To seek Help

Our society has yet to normalize that mentally healthy people can and do face difficulties. The truth is that Mentally Healthy people seek help! Seeking help doesn’t mean you are unwell, it just means you realize the limitation of your scope of knowledge and competency and you seek out experts to help you get to what you want.

The Most Important Sex Organ in the Body

It's not what you think it is.

Putting Behaviors Behind your Hope!

Relying on hope to fix a problem marriage, improve your parenting skills, address the anxiety or depression in your life is risky. People loose valuable time to make effective change waiting and hoping something different will result from their continued course of action.

Tips for getting Happiness

Tips for how to get happiness in your life and understand what research says makes people happy

Get Your Mental Health In Shape!

Being mentally healthy or happy is not an all or nothing state, rather you can learn effective skills to increase your happiness and improve your relationships

Resolve to be Happy!

Start your new year off right by getting happy. Read how...

Clinical Discussion of Mental Health Problems

A new way to look at Depression

Depression isn't an emotion we are victim to but rather our brain's creative way to try and get our needs met...check out this new perspective

ADD, ADHD overdiagnosis and the myth of the chemical imbalance

Parents need to arm themselves with information about how to make decision to treat their child's behavioral issues. Understanding that the chemical balance talk is only a hypothesis, there are no actual blood tests to confirm this and that often the best course of treatment is improved parenting skills to address child behavior issues.

Do I have a Drinking Problem?

Many people come to me with greatly misinformed ideas about what constitutes an alcoholic. Many people tend see it very black and white, either I'm okay with alcohol or I'm an alcoholic. The reality of alcoholism or Alcohol abuse disorder (AAD) is that it is more a grey scale on a continuum from abstinence to full blown alcoholism.

It's Not an Anger Management Problem - It's a Choice

People keep choosing anger because it works, understand how anger is used and why people keep doing it

Anger Problems - You don't have Buttons that are getting pushed

Discussion of anger's purpose and what happens when it goes wrong

Couples Counselling for Substance Abuse

If you are living with a person that has a substance abuse problem, you may be more effective in bringing about change if you seek help for yourself in learning how to deal with the person rather than trying to force the person to come into therapy

Clinical discussion of the outdated sexual response cycle & how it may be hurting your sex life

A clinical review of the literature that shows people's belief about how sex works contributes to them incorrectly defining the problem and resulting in sexual problems

Men in Relationships with Extremely Volatile Women

Issues About Sex and Sexuality

How Does Sex Therapy Work

How does sex therapy work and help couples to resolve the challenges they are experiencing with their sex life

Behaviors & beliefs that will KILL your sex life and your marriage too

Are you doing any of these and have a bad sex life, read what you can do differently

Myth: Rise in Erectile Dysfunction

Porn use seems to have everyone believing this is why men are having more erectile dysfunction. Read more why this myth is not true

Masturbation vs. Relationship Sex: What is the difference and why people choose one versus the other when they have a choice

Taking a look at reasons people may choose to masturbate even when they can and do have relationship sex.

What does it mean when your erectile dysfunction drug doesn't work

If you are taking viagra or any other drug like that and it doesn't work, it is often a signal that the problem is relational not physiological

The most important sex organ in the body.

It's not what you think it is

Good Reasons Why a Person Doesn't Initiate Sex

Understandingg what are motivations behind reduced requests for sex in a relationship

What is Sex?

How you define sex may be creating your sex problems

Sexual Problems are generally not about Sex

Sexual problems are generally not about sex, they are about a whole host of issues that include self-image, self-critism...

What is a Sex Problem?

What is normal sex and am I normal are 2 of the most sex questions. Understanding what is normal about sex.

Why the diagnosis of "sex addict" is not a helpful approach

Sex after the Baby: When a wife loses interest in Sex

Be Careful the Story You tell Yourself about Your Sex Life:

It may be the root of your problem

What does a Lost Erection during Sex Mean?

The meaning either person gives to a lost or soften erection has serious implications for a couple’s sex life, consider some alternative meanings

Understanding Porn Use in a Marriage

Help people to people to get a better context for why some people choose porn and  to look at how couples deal with porn and the possible reasons a partner chooses porn.

Does Porn Use Cause Rape?

The Myth of Porn’s Perfect Bodies

Continuing to demystify porn

Infidelity: A problem in the Relationship not the Person

Understanding how issues in the relationship can create choices for a person to cheat

Trying to Understand the Partner that Betrayed you

Issues to look at when trying to make sense of how your partner choose to have an affair

Talking to your Kids about Porn

Key points for parents and how to start this conversation

All About Marriage Counselling

Should you Force your Spouse into Marriage Counselling?

Couples Counselling Case Studies

Examples of couples that have improved their relationship through counselling

It's not a Communication Problem!

Communication problems in marriage don't exist, it's the fact that people don't like what they hear their partner saying. understanding some realities about marriage

Creating a Joint Parenting Plan to end this area of conflict

Many marriage problems arise out the fact that spouses cannot agree on how to parent their kids. This constant tension resulting from disagreement starts to bleed into other areas of the relationship and sex life. Not figuring out how to create a joint parenting plan creates problems for couples.

Give the Gift of a new Relationship Framework

Romantic relationships, in order to be need satisfying to both people, must have an effective relationship framework.

Magical Thinking in Marriage

Magical thinking and doing more of ineffective behaviors prevents couples from making effective changes to their marriage to save it.

Unrealistic Expectations for your Relationship or Marriage

One significant factor for relationship decline is that one or both partners carry unrealistic expectations about how a marriage or relationships work.

Infidelity Prevention in a Relationship

The number one way to prevent infidelity in a marriage is to maintain a strong friendship in which both people’s needs are met. All people are genetically encoded for survival, love and belonging, power and control, freedom and fun.

Ignoring Your Marriage Problems Won't Make them Go Away

Problems in your marriage are real if you’ve stopped having sex, you start fantasizing about another person real or imagined, you argue more than you can you cooperate and often feel resentful, infidelity whether emotional or sexual and when you start to mentally disengaging from your marriage and start thinking about how life would be without your partner. These are signs that your marriage is trouble.

Protect Your Relationship Against Infertility Issues

Issues couples face when considering undergoing infertility treatments to achieve pregnancy

Best Gift to Your Child: A Happy Marriage

By developing strong relationships skill prior to the baby arriving you can positively influence your child’s intellectual and emotional development. In addition relationship skills can help you prevent relationship meltdown and infidelity.

Stop Talking Your Marriage & Start Doing Your Marriage

Learn how to be more effective in your marriage and stop fighting

Maintaining your relationship after children arrive

To keep a marriage strong you must keep the focus on your relationship...this articles discusses the challenge that affects relationships when child become the foundation of the relationship instead of the adults forging the foundation.

Is this going to hurt?  Marriage Counselling

Couple Counselling is about building skills, not complaining, blaming and fault finding in the relationship- this doesn’t help anyone. Counselling helps couples to get to the root of the nonproductive conflicts and poor communication. 

Repair or Leave Your Marriage

Some ways to help you evaluate if you should repair or end your marriage

Tips to Garner more Cooperation from your Partner

Tips to help you talk to your partner so you can get more cooperation

Top Tips for Managing Conflict in Your Relationship

Learn how to be more effective when you are having an argument

It's good to be in Love!

Don't wait until things are really bad to seek help and protect your relationship, read about preventative counselling for pre-marriage, infertility, bringing home baby, and baby sleep help

Marriage Make Over

How to improve your existing relationship

Making Love Last...as an Expat

Learn how to keep your relationship strong as an Expat in Singapore

Counselling for Cheating or Infidelity in Marriage

Infidelity: Now What

No one gets a user manual on what to once an infidelity, as defined by one or both parties is discovered. Here are some things people need to consider before making any decision.

Reasons People Cheat - Besides Sex

Article discusses the many reasons a person chooses to have sex, debunking some popular myths that it is all about sex

Crisis Management: What to do in the Immediate aftermath of discovering Cheating

Counselling for Cheating or Infidelity

Understand what is required to repair and improve your marriage after cheating is discovered

Forgiveness in Infidelity: Why it’s an inadequate strategy

How to Know if Your Relationship is Worth Saving

Some key things to look at to see if you still want to save your relationship

Surviving Infidelity

Learn the top things you must consider when finding out about infidelity

PreMarriage Counselling Articles

Doubts about Marriage Increase Risk of Divorce: PreMarriage Counselling is a Good Idea

A 2012 UCLA Study shows a link between having doubts about your finance and an increase risk of divorce at year 4. Pre-marriage counselling can reduce the change of divorce

Myths of Romantic Love

The reality is that marriage is a unique relationship that requires unique skills to manage effective communications in order for both people in the relationship to get their needs met. The skills for communication or conflict manage we use at work or as a parent - don’t work in a marriage.

A Marriage Without Expectation

Understanding how perceptions and expectations can negatively impact a relationship and lead to reduced positive communication between spouses.

Parenting & Sleep Help

No Medals given for sleep deprivation- Correct your child's sleep

Is our decision to put off addressing your child's sleep based on good information?

Myth of 7 to 7 and other harmful child sleep myths

There are many harmful sleep myths that keep persisting today in spite of good research to the contrary. In large part, this is due to the internet search phenomena and also how the human brain works. These persisting sleep myths are the number 1 reason why sleep training fails and gets a bad reputation. The sleep training methods are fine, but often people implement them incorrectly, or use a good sleep training tool on the wrong sleep problem.

Common Discipline Mistakes

Understanding common parenting discipline mistakes in the context of child development and behavior

Making Sense of Child Misbehavior

Understanding your child's behavior

I’m Pregnant, but am I Stressed? 

Understanding Night terrors, nightmares and other disturbed sleep habits of children

Help to distinguish a child's normal sleep patterns from troubled sleep

Why Sleep Training Fails, Part 1

One of the main reasons sleep training fails is that people are applying a good sleep training tool to the wrong sleep problem. When parents and children are not sleeping it makes everyone cranky. Actually lack of sleep is an official recognized form of torchure. When we are not getting we get desperate and start doing anything to get sleep.

Sleep and School Performance- the link

This article discuss how over 30 studies have been conducted showing that both enough sleep and quality sleep are related to academic performance for children

Sleeping like a Baby?

Understanding some of the bizarre yet normal sleep behaviors of your children

Not a Sleeping Beauty Baby

Understanding normal sleep behavior and sleep amounts

Self Regulation - a core parenting skill to teach your child

A discussion of how important instilling self regulation is in your child

Speaking the Language of Love to your child

Understand why talking to your child under 12 isn't the most effective way to communicate

Signs and Symptoms of Bullying- What to do

How to tell if your child is being bullied and what to do about it

Sleep From Birth to Adulthood

Understanding the importance of sleep for adults and children and what to do if its not working

Co-sleep vs. Cot Sleeping: Which is better

Make an informed choice about how you want your child to sleep

What is child Physical Abuse

Experts in the field of child behavior believe physical abuse teaches children to be submissive, fearful, and/or aggressive. It also teaches them hitting is a way to control other people and solve problems.

Infertility Counselling & Help

A letter to women to protect their fertility from a woman struggling with infertility

This is a letter written by a member of our infertility support group to her friends and she wanted to share it and make sure that all women are aware of how to protect the fertility and hopefully avoid the pain of infertility. 

Infertility Etiquette from RESOLVE

This is an article on the proper way to manage relationships and issues of infertility with women and men that are struggling with it.

How to be a good friend to someone with infertility

This article is for all people wondering what to say or how to support their friend who is dealing with infertility

Grief and Bereavement - what to do and say

This is article is written to help you understand how to respond to someone that has experienced a loss, whether its is a much hope for pregnancy, a loved-one or a job.

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