How to use the counselling for individual or marriage
Counselling, for many people, is a mysterious process used as a last resort when some crisis hits such as death, job loss, infidelity, divorce or depression strike. Popular TV shows and magazines seem to make counselling all about getting simply words of wisdom or advice to very complex issues. Counselling is much more.
The whole premise behind our counselling is to help people choose more effectively in their life and relationships in order to achieve happiness. Counselling is more than awareness. Awareness alone doesn’t bring about change if you don’t know what to do. Counselling helps clients learn effective skills to deal with their new awareness and do something about it. Choosing differently can be nearly impossible if you are not aware there are alternative choices to what you are currently and ineffectively doing or wanting.
Our counsellors have alternatives for people stuck facing problems that seem to have no solutions! Counsellor gives clients new ways to look at the same old problem. How powerful is that! This ability cuts across a wide variety of issues.
Imagine a reality where you are not doomed by early childhood trauma or past mistakes or a history of nasty fights in your marriage. Instead imagine the possibility to learn to choose more effectively in order to get what you want. This is what our counsellors do.
What’s is the client’s role
Clients play a huge role in the outcome of their own therapy. Counselling is a partnership. The therapist works with you, not on you. You need to want to get better and our therapist will help with you HOW you get better.
It's best to think of counselling like a technology .To maximize this technology clients will need to decide if they want to invest their time, effort and as well as their money in order to get all the benefits.
In order to bring about positive change, a client will become of aware of their own behaviors, thoughts and choices with the counsellor’s help. Counselling may not always be comfortable, as with any change, but you do not go it alone, you have your therapist assisting you.
What Counselling Is NOT
Counsellors are not referees to determine winners in fights. Nor are they judges of behavior or morality. Counsellor may help you become aware of this ineffective pattern of fighting and help you to decide if you want to keep doing it this way or learn or a more effective way to manage conflict.. A counsellor can help you become more effective in your fights so you don’t need a referee.
Counsellors rarely give advice to clients. Giving advice is what you get for free from your friends but is rarely followed through. Instead therapist teach clients how to behave more effective, see more choices that they didn’t know about and clarify what they want and how to effectively get it.
Lastly, counselling is not a punishment. How is learning to be more effective, get more choices in life and learn new skills a punishment? Learning how to do happiness is a gift we get from counselling.
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